I was thinking earlier this week about being reactive. There are many areas of my life where I am too reactive.
- Mental Health
- My relationship with God
- Stress Relief
Let's be honest, there's a lot of areas where we can be reactive. Where we wait for the pressure to build up, for things to start to bubble over, then we start to take action. Except that the action often then looks like a cartoon character who is sitting at the bottom of a dam plugging one hole while another one opens up, until they all open up and the dam comes crashing down.
Do you ever feel that way in life? I know the past two months have felt that way for me. It all came crashing down last week after getting sick and realizing my body and mind had done too much and were calling it quits on me whether I liked it or not.
I'm still trying to recuperate and a little more proactivity a few months ago would've hopefully made recovery a bit easier than it's currently going.
So why are we reactive. There's probably 7.8 billion different answers for alI different people that live on this planet, but I'm guessing there is some commonality.
One place of commonality is we often want to trade the short-term pleasure/appeal instead of the long term gain. On the surface this looks easy, "just want the long term gain and you are good." Except that there are so many other factors at play and one of the biggest ones is pain. You see that short-term item may help me not feel the pain I'm feeling and I don't want to feel that pain, so I'll take that short-term relief. Next time, I'll do better.
Pain, or the avoidance of, also comes forth in other areas. We often want to avoid the near term pain for the hopes that it will just go away if we cover it up quickly now. How often can we do that in our relationships. We avoid, sweep under the rug, delay, hope, and come up with distractions to keep us from diving into the potential areas of pain that are present. The problem is, the above strategies don't work. It's like putting a bandaid on a gaping wound. It may cover it for a period of time, but that wound isn't healing because of that bandaid. The wound needs some kindness and care to allow for healing.
Maybe there's some wounds in your life and your relationship that need healing, that need some kindness and compassion. There will be room for that at The Thrive Marriage Weekend.
Maybe you've done a bunch of work with that already and you want to be proactive instead of reactive. You want to get the oil changed regularly versus waiting for the car to spring a leak. There's room for that at the Thrive Marriage Weekend.
You see, we all need space like the Thrive Marriage Weekend. To be proactive in our relationships, to step forward and look at one another and move towards togetherness and wholeness. To allow for healing, to tend to the spots where reactivity has been the default.
No matter where you are coming from, there's space at The Thrive Marriage Weekend for you!
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